Third-Party Credit™

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🧬 We Were Raised By Nick, Diana & Nes—But We’re Not Staying There™

Some of us were raised by Nick. ✨ The one who believed performance would protect him. 💼 Who clocked in emotionally like it was his job, until he vanished inside of it.

Some of us were raised by Diana. 👑 Who smiled through shame and called it strength. 📿 Who prayed out loud but punished in silence.

And then there’s Nes. 👹 The phantom that whispers: “You owe me.” 🗡️ The twisted teacher who calls revenge fair. 🩸 He doesn’t destroy outright—he destabilizes. Turns our values upside down. Confuses control for justice. And calls it wisdom.

We were just trying to survive them. 🍼 Dancing between their needs, their moods, their silence. 🧢 Learning to read a room like our life depended on it—because it did.

We learned:

  • If we stayed invisible, we’d be safe.
  • If we worked hard enough, we’d be loved.
  • If we waited long enough, someone holy would come rescue us. 😣

But the rescue never came. So we became our own rescuer. 💃🏽🕺🏽

We stopped trying to win their approval. We started asking real questions: Who taught them that? Why did we believe it? And what happens if we stop repeating it?

This letter is not about blame. It’s a mirror. For all of us. Because maybe you weren’t just raised by Nick, Diana, or Nes. Maybe… you are them sometimes.

We all inherited something. 🧬 The silent generation’s quiet wounds. ⛪ The religious guilt of the 80s. 🙃 The narcissistic parenting of the 70s, repackaged as “structure.”

Pero ya basta. We are not recycling pain for the next generation. We are composting it. Making medicine from the mess.

We Are Not Shaming Our Ancestors.™ We are freeing them by telling the truth they couldn’t.

This isn’t just a story—it’s a call to action. Let’s stop defending dysfunction. Let’s stop dressing up emotional labor as loyalty. Let’s stop calling fear wisdom and control protection.

We Don’t Do Third-Party Credit™ Anymore. We take accountability. We share power. We name the cost.

No More Fake Peace. No More Free Labor. No Más™

We don’t need to wait for a sign from the sky. We are the ones we’ve been praying for.

Let’s walk out the door of old legacy and into real wellness. Together.

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